Kinder. We talk about kinder a lot at home; Angus is quite pleased with the concept of going to kinder, and we talk about the things that he has done at kinder. We also talk about the little things that are 'just so' at kinder, like that you have to wear a smock when you do painting, that you cross your legs while you sit on the rug at kinder, and that you wash your hands before eating your snack at kinder. We also talk about the other kids at kinder, and we talk about any incidents that happen while he is at kinder, both good and bad.
Remembering that Angus is three-and-a-half, the conversations that we have probably only make so much sense to me because I am still going to every session of kinder with Angus. So when he tells me something about his kinder experience, I know exactly what he is talking about because I was there, and I was watching, whether it was up close or from my 'hanging in the back-ground' position. The thing is, that I don't know if I would be able to explain and offer as much support if I was relying on him to tell me exactly what is bothering him ~ so actually leaving him there on his own is proving to be as difficult for me as it is for him.
That said, we are starting to get to a point where Angus is comfortable with me hanging back a little. He knows what happens when he walks in the door, and from then on until the end of the session. We have been enough times now, and the sequence is the same every time, just what little kids need. I am also starting to get more comfortable, especially when I see that his behaviour is actually more confident when I stay out of his sight.
I was planning on leaving him there on his own for a little while at his next session, but as it happens his kindy teaching is leaving (thank-goodness we have been fostering his relationship with the kinder-assistant, as I figured that all the kids would be vying for the teachers attention, and the assistant seemed a little more approachable to me) so Friday will be his first session with the other kinder teacher, who usually takes the four-year-olds... As yet they haven't got a replacement teacher for the three-year-olds, so it may be that I need to continue attending until they employ the new one. Either way, kinder is still proving to be a positive (although slightly uncomfortable) experience for us all.