Friday, 16 April 2010

sometimes I need a good kick in the pants

play time

I had kinder duty with Daisy's group today, and it was just the kick in the pants that I needed. I didn't realise that I was on duty until quite late in the week, and by then my 'go to' child minder already had social plans of her own. I found myself in a position where I had to take all three children with me, which, when I broke it down wasn't so bad,Daisy, of course, is supposed to be there anyway, Angus is happy to join in with the group {as it's the same teachers that he had last year} and I wear Mia in an ergo carrier most of the time that I am there.

However, it didn't stop me from being a grumpy, stressed Mum before kinder duty. I had a bad attitude; I didn't want to go to kinder, I didn't want to be the one who had to get the kids ready for kinder, and I certainly didn't want to be on kinder duty. I got stuck in my bad mood and found that I was cranky, and impatient, and yelling {a lot}.

cool?... no, they are just like Grandpa's!

Of course there is something about being in front of other people that tends to clean up ones behaviour, so when I got to kinder I found that I let go of my bad mood a little, and slowly I started to see the goodness in my children again. With no pressure to have the housework done, or get the laundry hung out, there was time for me to stand back a little and just watch them play, and socialise, and show what sweet children they really are.

momentarily distracted

During the time that I was there, Daisy asked me {a number of times} "why are you still here?"..."you can go now!"

To which I replied "I can't go Daisy, I am on kinder duty today"

"well you can go now Mummy" she told me

"no I can't Daisy, I am here to help"

"Well I don't want your help! You can go now Mama"

"it's okay, I don't have to help you Daisy, I can help the other children" and I would move to a different area of the room and let her have her space.

snack time

It really got me thinking, especially about how I spend a lot of time at home trying to get other things done, and expect them to play with each other, or quietly with their toys a lot. It also got me thinking about how Daisy sees kinder as 'her time' and how I was imposing on that time and space by being there. It also got me thinking about spending more time being present and available to my kids when we are at home.

As usual, when I can't see the forest for the trees... I buy a book; The Secret of Happy Children by Steve Biddulph; so far so good, hopefully this will reset us back on a path of more present and attentive parenting, and spending a little more time just living in the moment. I'll be sure to get back to you...